When writing personal weddings or commitment vows, there is a way to do it so that those vows can be the template for something spectacular. By using the 7 tools of creation, an individual, or a couple, can create something of lasting value that can defy all the odds. And do it easily.
The seven tools of creation to use when writing your wedding or commitment vows are:
- Thought or contemplation
- Writing
- Talking
- Pledging or promising
- Review and repetition
- Affirmations and prayer
- Visualization
- Bonus tool–Saying ‘Thank you!’
Thinking-By taking a question, or a particular idea you need clarification on, in this case the life of a marriage or committed relationship, and allowing it to roll around in your mind and in your life, you open yourself to expanding your thoughts to arrive at new and bigger ways of living your life. You are not trying to make anything happen. You are open to a higher way of thinking that can come in many ways through books, magazines, radio or TV, casual conversations, intuition, etc.
By making a conscious decision that you want a higher perspective and answer, and voicing that to yourself, you set in motion a process of ‘allowing’ where information, ideas, and awarenesses just sort of ’show up.’
Writing-Writing allow you to ’see’ your thoughts. They become more real and you have a greater perspective because you are outlining, describing, or concluding. The process helps you to access many parts of your brain. By writing an idea out you can more easily decide if you are actually clear about your thoughts on a particular subject. I’ve been at workshops where the answers to important questions were written with the non-dominant hand. This bypasses some judgmental thought processes to get to a raw essence of an idea.
You may write about your wedding vows and the dream you have for your life together more than once. By writing about your life and your dreams, for yourself or your relationship, you can get into the feeling, the picture and the emotion of the thing, thereby driving the energetic pattern into the cells of your body. In metaphysics we call this ‘embodying an idea.’ This means that you have ingrained the idea or made it your operating system so that you will automatically do, be, and say what it is that supports the dream you have crafted for your life together.
Talking-Talking takes your thoughts to a higher level and accesses other parts of your brain. By actually hearing your dream for your life explained or expressed in words you speak, your vision is amplified. It becomes more real. The template you have created, becomes what can be called the Law of Attraction. As it is impressed into a unified field of awareness that field, or God, or the Universe, or Spirit, or whatever you want to call it, begins to go to work for you on your behalf. Bring you to people, things, experiences, ideas and awarenesses that support your dream or your vision.
By talking about your life together as you work through the process of writing your wedding vows, you are establishing an intimacy for each other and the dream you have for your marriage or partnership that you can easily return to.
Pledging or promising-When you promise to do whatever it takes for you to stay on purpose and in passion of and for the dream you wrote into your wedding vows you are becoming a decision maker. There is power in a decision. You activate an energy that helps keep you going even when there are tough times. Robert Schuller has a great phrase he made into a book: ‘Tough times never last, but tough people do.’ Promising to stick with something until you have made it your operating system, or your way of life, activates will power, right thinking and right action.
Reviewing-When you have written and pledged your vows you are not finished with them. You are going to take those wedding vows, and read them over and over and over again. Every day! The more you read those vows, the more real they become. The more real they feel, the stronger a magnet they are. Everything you need to be living your dream shows up, almost magically and mystically. So keep rereading them over and over and over and over!
You are learning to play the symphony of your life. Every great master of any subject practiced it over and over and over again until they had that skill ingrained in their minds and bodies and the very fabric of their lives.
Affirmation/prayer-This is where you ask for help! In affirmation or prayer you are affirming that there is something bigger than you are, call it a Higher Power, that can take some of the load off, that knows how to do anything, and is delighting in ‘pressing down to overflowing’ everything you want and need to make your life extraordinary, passionate, creative, prosperous, meaningful, and fulfilling. This is where you stop trying to make things happen and allow them to happen to you by reminding yourself that you are worthy, that you deserve to be living your dream, that there is nothing that can block, hinder, slow down or other wise keep your good from you.
This is where you get out of your own way!
Visualization-When you can ’see’ it with your eyes closed, that is visualization. You go into a quiet moment with a specific outcome in mind with the purpose of driving the picture, the sound, the smell, the touch, the feel of what you want into your entire life experience. When that happens, and you can ‘live’ it before it actually happens then that thing or experience is out somewhere gathering in all the particles and elements that make up that dream.
Bonus tool: Saying ‘Thank You’-The bible says that before Jesus prayed he would say,’ Thank you, Father, for answering my prayer.” He ‘knew’ before he even finished the prayer that the outcome was a given. So every day you begin your day by saying ‘thank you:’ to yourself, to Higher Power, the Universe, your family, your life, and everything in your world. You are in effect opening your arms, your mind and your life for good to come from everywhere in every form.
Another way of saying ‘thank you’ is to give voice for all the good things that show. This includes, parking spots, someone who went out of their way to be helpful, for a good idea, for your partner. In fact, for everything that shows up. Get in the habit of saying ‘thank you’ for just about everything. You are also saying to the Universe, ‘I appreciate all I have and you can bring me more.’ The more you have the more you can give away, which is another way of saying ‘thank you!’
I want you to have the most amazing life possible. If you take a little time once in a while to stop, think, write, speak, pledge, review, pray or affirm and say ‘thank you,’ you will have retooled your life to seeing, experiencing and sharing the spirit of possibility.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping couples and individuals write down the dream and then live it!