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How writing your own personal wedding or marriage vows guarantees a happy life together.
The Secret Life of Wedding Vows How to Write Wedding Vows that Create Powerful Marriages
I have cracked the code on writing wedding vows! This is ground breaking stuff! Because, the truth about wedding vows is that your vows have the potential to attract to you everything you could ever want in your life or marriage! That won’t happen if you don’t have a clear and powerful dream and vision. · For yourself. · For your spouse or partner, · For your marriage or partnership Here’s what I want you to know about why you must write your own wedding vows so they have a life beyond the end of the ceremony. You write your own wedding vows to create
Writing your own vows could well be the most important and amazing thing that you could ever do in your life together. So I’m repeating it again. You write your own wedding vows so you can create . . .
There is one main secret you MUST know in order to get the most benefits from writing your own personal vows.
It is the cornerstone and key to using my technology on how to write wedding vows that create powerful marriages.
WRITE YOUR VOWS TOGETHER IN SHARED and INSPIRED CONVERSATION!
DO NOT GO OFF INTO A CORNER TO WRITE YOUR VOWS AND THEN KEEP THEM SECRET WITH THE INTENTION OF IMPRESSING YOUR PARTNER AND YOUR GUESTS DURING YOUR CEREMONY. Because the reason you write your own vows is to create a vision for your life and your marriage, and that has to be done in shared conversation with each other. And it doesn’t matter at all what anyone else thinks about them. If you impress your guests that’s a side benefit. First and foremost, however, your vows are for the purpose of creating a vision and a blueprint for your life and you can’t keep that secret from each other. Except it seems many couples do just that. Not intentionally. They just never seem to get around to discussing important things like sex, and money, and children, and in-laws, and religion and spirituality and careers, and houses and cars and many other vitally important topics.
Not only did Rev. Linda marry us, but she gave us easy to use guidelines for writing our wedding vows. We didn’t know where to start. She simply told us to talk about the dream we had for our own individual lives and then talk about the dream we had for our marriage. She wanted us to have to think and talk about what was really important and then write those ideas as vows. Eight years later our relationship is stronger than ever. We have one beautiful boy and another on the way. I believe that the key element in our strong marriage is that we learned how to communicate on a deep and passionate level. Writing our vows together was definitely a huge factor. Christine Hippert, Wisconsin
In my Ebook, The SECRET Life of Wedding Vows—How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages and Partnerships, I give you a workbook presented in a very interesting way that outlines many of those important areas. This will help you to arrive at the point of conversation well prepared. What you are going to do—together—is to create what may well be the most important document you will ever encounter. If you spend time in directed and meaningful conversation that document will be wedding vows, not divorce papers! The benefits to writing your own wedding vows together are so profound I can only begin to list them here. · You create an opportunity to have a deep and meaningful conversation that could set the course of your entire life. · You consciously craft a vision and a dream of your life together. · You create a One Page Miracle that becomes your Law of Attraction. · Your vows become a blueprint or a life plan for your life together. · You empower yourselves and the Law of Attraction so the odds are strongly aligned in your favor. · You attract the people, things, ideas and experiences that support your vows, almost effortlessly. · You more easily stay on course even when challenges show up. · By rereading your vows daily you keep passion alive. · If you spend time talking about important aspects of your life together you are better equipped to know how to handle unexpected situations. · You create clarity of purpose. · You set precedence for shared, meaningful, creative conversation so that it is easier to have other important conversations in the future. · Helps create a strong purposeful marriage · You are more open to opportunities available to you. · You are more in control of your thoughts and emotions. · You put success on autopilot. · You will be more successful and have sustained joy in every area of your life together.. · Things will come to you easily. · You learn a technique or method that you can use in the future for just about anything you could want. · You more easily recognize when you are off course. · You begin to create what might be called a life plan.
I could go on and on and on but you get the point. Or points. Now for some magic thinking. Except there is no such thing as real magic. It can all be explained on some level. What I want you to do is to take the discoveries about how the mind works and integrate them into the writing your wedding vows. Because, you see, one of those discoveries is this: Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is imagined! Your subconscious mind is a little like an operating system in a computer which can’t do anything it hasn’t been previously programmed to do. Most of those programs in your own mind are your memories. Your memories are your primary default operating system. Some of those memories are religious or family or culture values that may not fit your current values and you might want to explore them a bit, because your memories drive your life. It’s sort of like your life is on autopilot. We can create new memories that we consciously and mindfully choose. That one discovery about how the mind works has vast implications for you. Here’s why. You can make your mind believe whatever you want it to if you are willing to take the time to do it. Your vows are an amazing tool for change. You are going to begin to consciously, thoughtfully, create a strong vision and dream for your life and the life of your marriage. All I’m asking is that you take a little time to get clear about what it is you want, talk about it, write it out, pledge it and then keep on reviewing it over and over and over and over. This may surprise you: It’s not the words you use in writing your vows that are important. It’s the power you put into the words that is the SECRET to their long life. That power is a shared, articulated vision! In other words you are going to create a powerful and precise Law of Attraction Your vows are going to become a Law of Attraction. Or a one page magnet! Or a One Page Miracle. But miracles don’t just happen. They have to be built into your thinking, into your mindset. You are going to fuse your dreams and your vision into your wedding vows and then burn your wedding vows into your mind and your lives. You are going to have an amazing life that just keeps going and going and going and going. Whatever you give your attention, emotions and feelings to will be reproduced in your life. That happens because everything is connected in some invisible, or spiritual, level. Every rock, person, animal, plant and thing is tied together with invisible threads of energy. It’s the energy of your emotions and feelings, imagined or otherwise, that act like magnets that draw to you what you are focused on. Effortlessly! That dream has to be · so alive . . . · so full of excitement . . . · so full of potential . . . That it stands up on its own legs and begins to move on its own power! You are going to consciously and deliberately articulate a clear, strong, passionate vision because we are drawn to those things we mentally imagine, write about, speak about, and, in this case pledge and promise. When you write your wedding vows with passion, purpose and power, infusing your dream into . . . · every letter . . . · every word . . . · every sentence . . . You will draw to you, almost effortlessly, almost miraculously, everything you need and want that supports your life, the life of your spouse, and the life of your marriage.
You are going to brand your thoughts, feelings and ideas into the vows you write and then speak them to each other.
Then by reviewing them over and over and over again you burn them into your mind, your body and your life. At that point they have become . . . YOUR ONE-PAGE MIRACLE
Let me say it again--it’s never too often--the SECRET to long lasting, passionate, loving relationships is to have a shared vision and to write it down. Think it, ink it, review it! I am going to help you get very clear about the dream you have for your life together with a simple, yet profound, method because I know a SECRET. . . Several actually. Let’s take a look at what they are. · The power in writing wedding vows is in writing them together in shared conversation. · That power comes from crafting a shared vision and a dream for your life together. · Your vows have the potential to attract to you everything you could ever imagine or want in your life. · Your wedding vows can be a One Page Miracle. · Another way of saying this is that your wedding vows set the Law of Attraction in motion. You decide what that will be. · It’s not the words you use in writing your wedding vows that is important but the power back of the words. · When you keep reviewing your vows you imprint them into your mind and your life. 50% of First Marriages Fail! I know you don’t want to hear this but before we go any further it’s important for you to take a look at the divorce statistics because I think they are important. Important enough for you to take notice of and be concerned. 50% of 1st marriages will end within 4 years. Some don’t make it past the honeymoon! Second and third marriage statistics are even more disastrous. Yet, all of these couples started out by being madly and gladly in love with each other. Somewhere along the way, however, those same couples that pledged undying love while lying in each other’s arms, began to keep each other ‘at arms length’ and finally fell sadly and madly out of love! Many of these couples even wrote their own vows. If that is so then why did things go wrong? I believe it is because they never put any deep thought and power into the vows they wrote. They each wrote their own vows without the benefit of articulating the passion of their relationship in ways that created a solid vision that magnified their dreams. At some point all those couples went their own ways. I want you to get to the point where you are “living the dream” way beyond those 4 benchmark years. I want you to be joined ‘at the hip’ with the purpose you wrote into your vows. Here’s a quote from someone I gave an event brochure to: “I am going through a divorce right now. When I read your brochure I realized that my husband and I did not take any time to talk about important areas of our life. If we had a program like this I believe things would have been different!” Anne S. I want you to have the best chance ever. And so do you. I know because you are here at this site and that is no accident. Your intuition knew where to send you. I’m inviting you to create a powerful and precise document that becomes your Law of Attraction that will draw to you everything you need to support your dream, and your vision of the perfect life together. But first you have to craft that vision because . . . A dream doesn’t just happen . . . A dream has to be conscious . . . A dream has to be intentional. Having guidelines help. I have created an Ebook with the technology to help you do just that. It came about because of my work as a non-traditional minister. People who came to me wanted one-of-a-kind unique weddings and they wanted to write their own vows. But they didn’t know where to start. I gave them some simple advice and instructions so that they could design a life. For themselves. And for their marriage, because the two can’t be separated. I was amazed at the strength, purpose and meaning those couples put into their vows as a result of my simple suggestions. They fairly sizzled with the energy of the Universe. At one point I realized I wasn’t giving people guidelines to write spectacular wedding or marriage vows, I was helping couples to create the blueprint and foundation for a phenomenal relationship and partnership. I was helping them to think bigger than they ever had before. I was teaching them a SECRET for success! And I want to teach you that secret. This brings me to a couple of other important ideas that I think you need to know and then we’ll get on with what you can expect to get from my Ebook. The time around your wedding is the most highly charged time you will ever have in your life! It will NEVER come around again. DO NOT SQUANDER IT! What happens is that there is all this energy and creative excitement around the wedding and the dreams for your life together as a married couple. The florist, the caterer, the cake maker, the wedding planner, the wedding attire people, your family, the guests, absolutely everyone . . . . . . is focused on YOU and YOU and YOU! This creates an oasis of energy around you that will magnify and amplify as a creative force that you can use. By consciously using this highly charged energy you multiply it by directing it through your vows for specific purposes. In this case the dream of a life together! REPETITION IS THE ULTIMATE SECRET TO KEEPING YOUR WEDDING VOWS ALIVE AND THRIVING Just because you pledge your vows to each other at your wedding doesn’t mean you are finished with them. Not by a longshot! It’s one thing to write beautiful, meaningful vows and another to keep them alive. You forge them into the network of your minds and lives by reading them every day! Sometimes you will read them by yourselves and other times you will take turns reading them together. That buries them deep into your consciousness, and keeps a door open for conversation. (I’m going to help you understand this more fully in the Ebook.) Many, many couples never get in a habit of deliberate, meaningful conversation. Not being able to communicate is a dream killer. Reading your vows together at least once a month continues to reinforce your intentions and creates a habit that will serve you well. Let me recap what I have given you so far.
Since writing your own personal wedding vows may be one of the most defining moments you will ever experience during your life together, Can you imagine not doing everything in your power to make something as important as your life together turn out right? Of course it doesn’t. That’s why I have developed a simple technology to help you do just that. You’ll find it in the Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS—How to Write Wedding Vows That Create Powerful Marriages and Partnerships First I step you through the basic spiritual and mental technology that you are going to use so you understand more fully just what it is you will be doing and why. Then I give you several different idea generators that will help you get to the heart and soul of your dream. You may use one or two, or all of them, or none of them. They are there to help you so when you sit down together to create magic you have a good foundation! One of the generators is a workbook that helps you to get incite into just about any area of your life together. It is put together in a very unique way. It can be used either before your marriage ceremony or later. Either way, I suggest you take some time with this. There is a flaw in my amazing Ebook, however! I expected that after a couple crafted a vivid vision of their life together they would easily put that into written words. What I have discovered is that even after a couple has articulated a fabulous dream and vision, sometimes they have a bit of problem putting their ideas into the words they can pledge to each other at their ceremony. So I’m including the 30 Minute Miracle. I originally wrote this for couples or individuals who needed help writing vows fast because they waited until the wedding was only a couple of days away. However, this is the perfect companion to the SECRET LIFE OF VOWS. In fact, when I rewrite the book I’m going to include it right in the book. Here’s what you’ll receive in the Ebook THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS— How To Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages and Partnerships! · Idea generators to help you get to the heart and soul of your dream together · An Idea Generator Workbook that gives you an opportunity to look and think about almost every area of your marriage. You can actually write in this. · Link to a printable copy of the workbook for ease of use. · Sample vows from some of my brides and grooms · Beautiful inspirational readings · An original reading: The Ten Commandments of Marriage. · Direct link to a framable copy of the 10 Commandments. · Ideas on reviewing your vows. · Ideas on renewing your vows. · 2 entire wedding ceremonies. · A naming ceremony · A personal journey in poetry: If Eyes are the Windows of the Soul, Then what is Poetry? Remember, you also get a link to the 30 Minute Miracle at no additional cost. What a deal!!! You’ll also get a link to the 10 Commandments of Marriage. I wrote it for my daughter’s wedding. Print it out and stick it up on the refrigerator as an ‘in your face’ practical instruction guide for marriage. Because the Ultimate Wedding Vow EBook is conveniently packaged as a downloadable PDF file, there’s no shipping cost and no waiting for your package to arrive! Click Here to Buy THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS and Secure Your Free 30 Minute Miracle!
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Thank you!
Whether or not you decide to purchase this amazing book, I want you to have the very best experience possible during this amazing time in your life. May joy fulfillment laughter and love be yours now and forever!
I’m no longer performing weddings but I might be persuaded to come out of retirement if you are thinking of having your wedding ceremony in a hot air balloon!
Live well. Live strong. Stay passionate!
With love, light and laughter, Rev. Linda Bardes The Wedding Vow Coach RevLinda@WeddingVowsAndCeremonies.com www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com/blog Home, About the Coach, Wedding Vow Blog, Wedding Vow Seminars, Additional Links, 10 Commandments, Contact us Copyright 2008 Linda A. Bardes |
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